Well it’s Christmas and whilst it’s a time when we yearn for happiness and a jolly season, we all know that in the real world, that sometimes just doesn’t happen. Terrible things occur, like the shocking event in America, which was breath-taking in its horror. We lose loved ones to illness and are often stressed with deadlines and overwork. So to have the ultimate ‘Happy Christmas’ when I came across this email on The Happiness Bank Account which regularly circulates, (but unfortunately I am unable to attribute its author), I thought it worthy of sharing as a reminder about some simple rules when striving for happiness.
I think this links in well with a previous blog called ‘Acceptance’ which touched on the importance of acceptance of the residual state (of your pelvic floor) in order to move into a state of happiness.
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, he smiled sweetly when told his room was ready. As he maneuvered his walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of his tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on his window. I love it,’ he stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.
Mr. Jones, you haven’t seen the room; just wait.’ ‘That doesn’t have anything to do with it,’ he replied. Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. ‘It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away – just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories!
Remember five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
This truly is the Art of positive living.
Now as simplistic as these ideas may be, there is much sense in trying to live your life following these steps.
May you all have a very Happy Christmas and Healthy New Year and don’t forget to keep up your pelvic floor strategies over the silly season!